Why do I get angry?

Being angry or getting angry is something that happens often and most probably that we regret later. Anger management courses exist solely to manage something like this and participants are increasing. As social interaction is reduced during the pandemic, pent-up anger is causing issues.

Disclaimer: Seek professional help, if needed.

Nothing can replace the help of a trained professional when it comes to your mind.

Apart from that, ask yourself these questions.

This is going to be a long series of questions for self-evaluation.

Control your anger

Anger/ Do we have to get angry?

There is no one in life who has not felt the emotion of anger. Even Jesus felt anger! It is a primary emotion and all will feel it. But how you handle it is different. You can brood with it, express it, find a solution for it, or ignore it. You have to choose any of these paths and each will lead to a different outcome.

That outcome may affect your entire life.

Ask yourselves all the following questions and jot down the answer.

You can take a few minutes to ponder on each question if you want.

Even if its not a yes or no answer, take time to write your explanation and scenario.

Why are you angry?

I would ask myself the question, why do I get angry?

Is it because someone else is doing something that I do not like?

Search for an answer to why you are angry.

Why should you be angry?

How does it affect you?

Did it directly affect you or are you angry just because you dislike the event?

Is the opposing party telling the truth?

Ask all these questions and evaluate the core reason. It will take a few hours or a few minutes.

Sometimes you will realize that there was nothing to be angry about.

Will it affect me?

Suppose the opposing party has something that is wrong, will it affect you?

Should it affect you?

Not everything in the world is about you. Remember that the world does not revolve around you. It is not your job to fight everything and make others eligible for heaven. But you can voice your opinion about what is right.

But, before you raise your voice, ask yourself if you are doing all those so that you can prove that you are correct.

Are you doing all these so that, you can feel morally superior?

Is it to satisfy your ego?

what kind of person are you?

Meditate or look deep down inside you and identify what kind of person you are. Most of the time, the source of your anger can be found by answering the question of who you are.

The experience and emotions of childhood influence our characters and we will never find out. The behavior of our parents and family plays a crucial role in developing our anger.

But it is not to blame them for your anger. Identifying all these is the first step in tackling anger.

Can you find a solution?

You are angry because someone has created a problem for you or disagreed with your view. Is it a genuine problem? If it is, can you find a legitimate solution?

Finding the underlying cause of your is the core step to achieving your anger management.

Always be positive.